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Feeling Seen by a Machine — Appendices

Feeling Seen by a Machine

Appendices

By donna bedford · Read online

This section translates each Shift from insight into action.

It’s here for the strategists, the builders, and the teams making systems work day to day.

If the main book showed you the why, this appendix gives you the how.

Use it to plan, pitch, test, or teach.

Shift Index Reference

KPI Glossary

Quick Wins by Role

SEO Lead – Add intent-summary headers to your top 10 landing pages. Watch scroll-depth and dwell time.

UX Designer – Run a microcopy audit. Apply ND-friendly structure to one form or error state.

Content Strategist – Rewrite CTAs and subheads to reduce ambiguity. A/B test literal vs. branded.

Product Manager – Add a “Show me around” toggle to onboarding. Track completion vs. support tickets.

User Researcher – Segment by cognitive traits where possible. Bounce-return loops are feedback, not failure.

Use it like a dashboard.

Pick one Shift, one metric, and one experiment.

That’s all you need to begin.Appendix B – What Kind of Neurodivergent Searcher Are You?

This isn’t a diagnosis. It’s a decoder ring for how your brain navigates digital systems.

If you’ve ever opened 14 tabs just to buy a toothbrush, abandoned a checkout flow because the button moved, or asked ChatGPT a question just to organize your own thoughts—you’re not alone. Neurodivergent users interact with systems in unique, layered, and often beautifully nonlinear ways.

This quiz is here to help you recognize your own patterns, reflect on what makes you feel seen by a digital system, and better understand how search behavior isn’t just functional—it’s personal.

There are no wrong answers. Only insights.

Results

Summary / Checkpoint

Appendix C – Recognition Isn’t a Trend – It’s a Correction

For decades, many neurodivergent people lived without recognition, support, or language for what made everyday systems feel harder to navigate.

The recent surge in diagnoses – particularly among adults – isn’t because neurodivergence is new. It’s because we’re finally measuring what was always there.

This is not an over-diagnosis crisis.

It’s an under-recognition correction.

We are not seeing a sudden rise in symptoms.

We are finally seeing people.

What the Numbers Show

ADHD diagnoses in U.K. adult women increased 320% from 2000 to 2020.¹

30% more U.S. women aged 20–49 began using ADHD medication during the COVID pandemic. ²

Autism identification has expanded dramatically, from 1 in 150 children in 2000 to 1 in 36 by 2023—with many adults only receiving diagnosis after their own children were evaluated. ³

As of 2024, it’s estimated that millions of adults remain undiagnosed, particularly women, people of color, and individuals in under-resourced communities. ⁴

Why This Matters for Digital Systems

The digital world often assumes its users are “typical.” But the people arriving today are more diverse, more diagnosed, and more aware than ever before. Recognition shifts how we design, measure, and serve:

From “edge case” to expected variation

From standardization to cognitive flexibility

From frustration to fit

This shift isn’t a spike. It’s a signal. The population is changing. The patterns are revealing themselves. The systems must respond.

Citations

ADHD Foundation UK, “Adult Diagnosis Trends,” 2022

CDC Data Brief No. 462, 2023: “Trends in ADHD Medication Use”

CDC Autism Data Monitoring, 2000–2023

Nielsen Norman Group: “Neurodiversity and Web Usability,” 2021

When Systems Don’t Fit, Shoppers Walk Away

Neurodivergent users represent a major -and growing – segment of online shoppers. They bring strong preferences for self-guided tools, calm flows, and structured autonomy.

But they also carry a lower tolerance for cognitive friction.

When a digital experience overwhelms, misleads, or surprises them – they don’t complain.

They just leave.

What the Data Shows

Neurodivergent users are more likely to abandon tasks silently when interfaces are unclear or overwhelming.

In 2021, the UK Government Digital Inclusion Report found that 40% of neurodivergent users abandon online tasks due to overload or confusion. ¹

Globally, $16.8 billion USD in online sales is lost each year due to websites that fail basic accessibility standards. ²

Accessibility here includes cognitive design: labels, flows, error handling, and clarity.

Disabled consumers (including neurodivergent individuals) hold $490 billion USD in U.S. disposable income. ³

When a site creates friction, it doesn’t just lose a session—it loses a share of that purchasing power.

71% of users with disabilities report leaving a website immediately when it is too hard to use. ⁴

For neurodivergent shoppers, triggers include:

Autoplay media

Hidden costs

Multi-step or changing checkouts

Unclear form fields or time pressure

Business Translation

The most loyal users are not always the loudest.

Neurodivergent customers don’t always tell you what’s broken – but their behavior will.

If you’re losing conversions with no obvious reason, if your cart abandonment spikes but support tickets stay silent – this may be your signal.

What feels minor to your design team may be overwhelming to someone navigating with ADHD, autism, or processing differences. That one friction point?

It might be costing you millions.

Citations

UK GOV Digital Inclusion Report, 2021

Web Accessibility Initiative (WAI), “E-Commerce Losses from Inaccessibility,” 2023

Return on Disability Report, 2020

Fabrity UX Survey, 2022: “Why Users Leave Inaccessible Sites”

Retention Is Neuro-Inclusive

Digital success isn’t just about reach. It’s about return.

Neurodivergent users – those with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, and other cognitive differences – represent an increasingly visible and valuable customer base. But their loyalty doesn’t come from gamification, personalization, or push tactics.

It comes from calm.

When systems are predictable, emotionally neutral, and cognitively clear, neurodivergent users stay. They finish what they started. They return – often silently, and consistently.

Why This Matters

According to Microsoft’s Inclusive Design toolkit, improving UX for cognitive accessibility improves task completion and satisfaction for all users, not just neurodivergent ones. ¹

Calm digital systems result in longer session times, higher conversion, and increased trust, especially among users navigating overwhelm or distraction. ²

Neurodivergent shoppers are more loyal to clarity than to brand. Their return behavior is driven by structure, not flash.

In a 2022 survey by Fabrity, 71% of users with disabilities—including those with cognitive differences—said they would abandon a site immediately if it created confusion or sensory overload. ³ That’s not just a lost click. That’s a lost customer for life.

The Loyalty Loop

Neurodivergent loyalty is built on:

Predictability

Low cognitive load

Emotional neutrality

The ability to pause, recover, and return

ChatGPT, Amazon search, and even simple to-do apps earn this loyalty – not by “understanding users” in a marketing sense, but by not surprising them.

Takeaway

If your system reduces friction, people will come back. If it increases fatigue, they won’t tell you. They’ll just vanish.

And that’s not a UX failure. That’s a retention leak. One that calm, inclusive design can fix.

Sources

Microsoft Inclusive Design Toolkit, 2022

Nielsen Norman Group, “Neurodiversity and Web Usability,” 2021

Fabrity UX Survey, “Why Users Leave,” 2022

Cognitive Friction Signals (And What They Really Mean)

Most teams don’t realize when their systems are creating cognitive load – because the signals don’t show up as complaints.

They show up as behavior.

Bounce rates, abandoned carts, low scroll depth, repeat searches—these aren’t just marketing metrics. They’re cognitive clues.

Here’s how to read them:

Cognitive Friction Table

How to Use This

This isn’t just a diagnostic table – it’s a design lens. Use it to:

Audit your analytics with cognitive empathy

Spot patterns that traditional A/B testing might ignore

Reframe “drop-off” as “design mismatch”

Key Insight

Not all exits are failures.

But many are feedback.

Especially from users who’ve learned not to explain their struggle.

We’ve Seen the Signals. Now What?

Neurodivergent users have been adapting to systems that didn’t fit for decades. The data in this chapter shows what many already feel: exclusion isn’t always visible—but it’s measurable. And solvable.

What the Data Tells Us

Millions of adults are only now getting diagnosed with ADHD, autism, or learning differences. Recognition is rising—but friction is still everywhere.

Neurodivergent shoppers abandon tasks more often, not because they’re incapable—but because the systems are exhausting.

Companies lose billions in revenue every year because they overlook these invisible signals.

What Teams Can Do

You don’t need a full redesign to start designing better. You just need to pay attention to the friction.

Track bounce + return loops

Reframe low-scroll metrics as potential overload

Treat long time-on-page with no conversion as a sign of decision fatigue

Test with neurodivergent users – not as edge cases, but as early-warning systems

Final Reflection

Neurodivergent users are not broken.

They’re the signal that your system isn’t as usable as you thought.

Fixing that doesn’t just serve them – it strengthens everything.

Inclusive design isn’t charity. It’s strategy.

And it starts when you finally look at the metrics no one else is explaining.

donna bedford
SEO · AI · accessibility · neurodivergence
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